How to open your negotiation when you want to break off with (or pick up)...
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I like the relax feeling. So I think that I will choose a "Creating warm, comfortable atmosphere" as my opener to open a negotiation when I want to pick up with a boy whom I like very much. And I would also like to "small talk" about something around us, such as breaking news or my hobbies or others, but I won't touch something too personal.I think it is not polite when we first meet. When we chat about something, we can understand what he thinks about the thing. Otherwise,there is one thing important, always to express my natural side, and honest. I think my attitude is also a key point that what others think of you. Then I can decided to pick up or give up in my mind. And maybe it's easier to succeed.
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Unknown, at 9:37 AM
I don’t like arguing with other people. If I want to break up with my boyfriend, I’ll try the soft and peace way to communicate to him and tell him what I’m thinking about. Since I wanted to break up, I considered of lots of possibilities. First, I would talk about some happier things between us, and then tell him about my feeling. I chose a silent place ( in a park,) and I told him I appreciated that he loved me so much, and tried to do many things to make me happy. However, I couldn’t adapt the way he loves me because it gave me lots of pressure. This makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable. I would tell him I couldn’t get into this kind of care. Therefore, I hope to stay at the original friend-relationship.
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sandy, at 9:09 PM
To Kelly,
1. To open your negotiation with "warm, comfortable atmosphere" is always a good way to start your negotiation.
2. But, conducting a successful small talk is not an easy job. You have to be:
a. knowledgeable
b. conversational
c. genial and expressive body language
d. sensitive to his or her interest, taboo, and personality
3. Now, the question comes to how we develop above skills or capabilities? are they inborn (innate, congenital) or acquired?
4. We would talk about the above questions in class.
a. "I like relaxing feeling."
b. "...to "smalltalk" something in common between us."
c. "but I won't touch anything personal at this point of time"
d. "Besides, there's one thing important here..."
e. "...is also a key point to winning favorable feeling of others towards me."
f. "Then I can decide..."
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wonderwan, at 12:58 AM
To Sandy,
1. Sometimes, there are 3 purposes for your negotiation "opener":
a. creating warmth, commonality, and consideraration
b. probing his or her bottom needs and interest and fears
c. verifying your assumptions when you prepare the negotiation
2. Breaking up with your "partner" is not very easy, especially when you want to end the relationship in a win-win way.
3. Sometimes, telling him or her a purposeful story to unearth his or her attitudes on this matter is also a good start for your negotiation.
4. But, please remember patience can be very important to this kind of negotiation. It usally takes 2-3 meetings before you formally propose the break-off -- the best case should be "nobody even have ot mention the hearbreaking words -- we break off.
a. "Since I decides to break off with him, I have considered lots of possibilities."
b. "I would bring up some beautiful memories between us..."
c. "Secondly, I would choose a quiet place, and (I would) tell him I appreciate..."
d. "...I cannot take this kind of love...
e. "...hope to stay with our original friend-kind relationship.
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wonderwan, at 1:24 AM
To Maggie:
1. You were not telling me what your "opener" is when you want to negotiate a "break-off" with your boy friend.
2. The prerequisite for any negotiation is:
Both you and he can not tolerate (settle for) the current situation (standoff), and you need to talk.
3. The opener of your talk (negotiation) will be very important -- as I mentioned in class.
a. "Most people would propose that girl should say (bid) "good-bye" to boy first" -- take the first step (take initiative).
b. "But, even if girl says "good-bye" first, she still has to be skilled in saying that."
c. "Don't talk about this without another friend around (between you and your boyfriend)."
d. "You can also ask a friend of you both to be the coordinator (mediator)."
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wonderwan, at 11:00 PM
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